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Mary and Rob..

Sorry to hear of your mom's passings..

I have to agree that it may be too soon yet for them
to come to you but Mary.. the TV switching was something
your mom used to do sitting in her recliner..

She like Rob's mom are in a stage of processing their
life and all that they came in connect with and whom
they loved and lost too...

It helps at times to let your sorrow out and vent
too... You are in the state of mourning and loss
and shock too.. I am just going through the death
of my dad from cancer two days after his 83 birthday
at Halloween or Samhain.. My dad came to me in
a dream on Dec 21, 2007 the winter Solstice and
he has been coming to me since than in my
dreams and in meditations and in other forms too..

My dad was a golfer and dentist so many aspects of
his life are all around me and my family..

It is very hard to want them to come back to you and
let you know they are ok.. In fact, that was I have
been told by many of the departed souls I speak too.
Most say that they are great and no longer in pain
and they feel more alive than when they were in
physical form.

Deb and others are correct when they mentioned the
aspect of time on the veil between the worlds..
The concept of time is physcial measure and on the
astral or etheral level or planes of existence this
physical concept of time is not recognized.

I have read several books about what happens to
a person after they pass.. Slyvia Browne and others
have wrote about first going through a scanning
machine which to me is like a room where you are
in and you are watching all your life events on
various images sent to you telepathically. In this
location you discoover all that you helped, loved,
hurt etc.. It is like a huge life assesment location.
A person spiritual being will be in that state for
the amount of time it takes to be able to go to
the next stage of the after life.. The coccoon stage.

In this stage is when after a person has gone
throught the scanning machine the coccoon stage
or like larva stage is a place of methomorphic
spiritual change. In this stage, one is filled with
all the missing new information they have to learn
on the other side of the veil for even though a
person loses it physical shell the souls is immortal
and so it needs to be understood and learn
all over again what it can and can not do!!

With many people who are suffering with cancer
as ws my dad and rob's mom they do go through
the 5 stages of death.. In fact, I watched and helped
my dad through these phases for that was part of
my spiritual path. I can see death in others..

The stages are:

Denial: "It can't be happening."
Anger: "Why me? It's not fair."
Bargaining: "Just let me live to see my children graduate."
Depression: "I'm so sad, why bother with anything?"
Acceptance: "It's going to be OK."

taken from
The Kübler-Ross model describes, in five discrete stages, the process by which
people deal with grief and tragedy, especially when diagnosed with a terminal
illness. The model was introduced by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross in her 1969 book
"On Death and Dying". The stages have become well-known as the "Five Stages of Grief".

from here...
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/K%C3%BCbler-Ross_model



It is very sad too for the holidays will be the times when we will miss
your loved one most.. For me it will be Father's day and his birthday
of Halloween.

For everyone it is different.. I know that there are many here who
have comforted me in my loss of my father and they will continue
to help you Mary and Rob..

Rob.. it will get harder too as the days and months go by too..
I have been in a major depression from my dad's passing but
I have many friends and family that help me with my depression
and I am seeking medical and professional help.

I just go day by day actually any more..

Being a psychic medium and letting my dad know this
over the years he never really believed in me until
I was able to show him from my dreams of what I was
able to find, see and explain to him. It helped to for
I was with him at night when most of my family
slept, I was watching over my dad as he used to
do for me when I was a child. It is very sad to see
the downward spiral that happens with a loved one
passes. It makes one look at their own life and
make sure that they have their life in order too
for you really do not know when it is your time
to go.. It makes one ponder the strangest stuff
and one really looks deep inside for their own
strength..

I know that right now your are both crying in solitude
or in secret but be not afraid for many are with you
comforting you !! I took strenght from so many
friends and family and online friends..

I can do something for you which is just something
that may both of you..

I will give you one of my angels I have with me that
I send out to those in need..

Mary... Here is yours..


Rob here is yours..


I will also make this promise if you need to call on
me and I will be there for you both...

In addition, if you wish I can create a memorial
graphic for both of you and host the images
on my sited for I have a page that I update
with all my fallen friends, family and pets..

here is the link...
http://www.uc2enter.com/merlynspirit.html

It may help and anyone else who wants a memorial
graphic and hosted here let me know in another thread
ok..